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May 3, 2016 0

Labeling Behavior, Not People

language graphicWith 28% of stu­dents ages 12 – 18 years old cur­rently report­ing hav­ing been a tar­get of bul­ly­ing, con­cerns about bul­ly­ing in schools have moti­vated hun­dreds of books to be writ­ten and a wide vari­ety of pro­grams to be designed and imple­mented with the goal of turn­ing the tide of bul­ly­ing. Many of these books and pro­grams aim to change the behav­ior of “bul­lies.” And herein lies one of the prob­lems that makes it so chal­leng­ing to change the dynamic of bullying.

First, what is it? Bul­ly­ing is the repeated actions or threats of action directed toward a per­son by one or more peo­ple who have or are per­ceived to have more power or sta­tus than their tar­get in order to cause fear, dis­tress or harm.

When most peo­ple pic­ture a “bully” in their minds, they see some­one who is big­ger than every­one else and goes around intim­i­dat­ing oth­ers. Because of this per­cep­tion, if you ask a room full of stu­dents if they have ever been a “bully,” chances are no one will raise their hand. Ask the same stu­dents if they have ever excluded some­one, called some­one a name, spread rumors or picked on some­one because of the way they look, you will find that many hands – if not all – will go up.

This tells us that there is a dis­con­nect between being labeled a “bully” and actu­ally engag­ing in bul­ly­ing behav­ior. As long as that dis­con­nect exists and we con­tinue to use the label “bully,” we will not be able to engage stu­dents in real con­ver­sa­tions that chal­lenge the social norms around bul­ly­ing. By iden­ti­fy­ing bul­ly­ing as a behav­ior rather than a label assigned to a per­son who exhibits the behav­ior, a few things happen:

  1. Stu­dents are able to self-reflect on their actions with­out fear of judgment;
  2. Stu­dents are able to rec­og­nize that the dif­fer­ent behav­iors that peo­ple choose play an impor­tant role when instances of bias or bullying—whether active or pas­sive occur; and
  3. Stu­dents begin to make con­scious deci­sions to respond in par­tic­u­lar ways when inci­dents occur and ulti­mately, take respon­si­bil­ity for mak­ing sure every­one is treated with respect by becom­ing an ally.

We live in a soci­ety that often uses labels to stereo­type and sim­plify peo­ple. Unfor­tu­nately, bul­ly­ing is not a sim­ple con­cept and it is up to edu­ca­tors and fam­i­lies to engage the young peo­ple in their lives in bet­ter under­stand­ing that bul­ly­ing refers to a behav­ior and not a per­son, and that it is a behav­ior that all peo­ple at some time in their lives have engaged in.  Under­stand­ing this dif­fer­ence empow­ers and moti­vates young peo­ple to move from being a bystander to an ally.

 

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March 15, 2016 0

Bias, Bullying and Bad Behavior in Politics: What’s the Takeaway for Youth?

Group of Friends SmilingThe polit­i­cal dis­course has reached a point where we have to ask our­selves: What should we tell our children? 

Young peo­ple watch and emu­late what adults say and do. For that rea­son, many adults—parents, neigh­bors, teach­ers, care­givers and yes, even politicians—are role mod­els to chil­dren.  These values—using accu­rate and appro­pri­ate lan­guage, stand­ing up for one’s beliefs, check­ing our­selves when it comes to bias and stereo­types, dis­agree­ing with­out being disagreeable—are imparted  by direct teach­ing and mod­el­ing through words and deeds.  In fact, many would argue that what we do has a much deeper impact than what we say.

The cur­rent polit­i­cal climate—which has been per­me­ated with hate-filled lan­guage, bias and bullying—is counter to what so many adults are try­ing to teach young peo­ple. We have wit­nessed stereo­typ­ing of many groups includ­ing women and immi­grants, threats to ban Mus­lims from liv­ing in the coun­try and pro­nounce­ments that Islam “hates” Amer­ica, mock­ing of dis­abled peo­ple and polit­i­cal can­di­dates attack­ing one another based on their phys­i­cal appear­ance.  Recently, at a cam­paign event, a sup­porter, unpro­voked, punched a pro­tes­tor in the face, say­ing “next time, we might have to kill him.” While this may seem like an iso­lated inci­dent, it’s the tenth cam­paign event in which there has been violence.

Things have got­ten so heated that one can­di­date vowed to stop the behav­ior, relent­ing that “my kids were embar­rassed by it.”

Has this polit­i­cal dem­a­goguery had an impact on young peo­ple? Has it trick­led down to the youngest among us? Of course it has. Mus­lim chil­dren are express­ing fear and sad­ness, ask­ing their par­ents if they are going to have to leave the coun­try after the elec­tion.  Recently, an Indi­ana high school bas­ket­ball game erupted into scream­ing and insults; the pre­dom­i­nately white team yelled at the oppos­ing play­ers and fans, who were a pre­dom­i­nately Latino team, chant­ing “no com­prende,” “speak Eng­lish” and “build the wall” (refer­ring to the pro­posal that a wall be built on the Mex­i­can bor­der to keep immi­grants out).  Latino and other immi­grant chil­dren worry that they may be deported when there is a new pres­i­dent in the White House.

Elec­tion years usu­ally present great oppor­tu­ni­ties for edu­ca­tors to expose stu­dents to civics and the Amer­i­can elec­toral process. How­ever, this year has left many feel­ing hes­i­tant and unsure about how to raise the topic; and specif­i­cally, how to approach the neg­a­tive and biased dis­course that’s over­taken the cur­rent debate. One angle edu­ca­tors can take is to turn the rhetoric into a teach­able moment by address­ing the following:

  • Under­stand Lan­guage. Pro­vide stu­dents with an under­stand­ing of the lan­guage of bias so they can make sense of what is going on and how to talk about it. This includes under­stand­ing the dif­fer­ence between bias (thoughts and atti­tudes) and dis­crim­i­na­tion (actions), how stereo­typ­ing can lead to bias, and the var­i­ous forms that bias and dis­crim­i­na­tion can take (e.g. racism, Islam­o­pho­bia, sex­ism, homo­pho­bia, anti-Semitism, etc.)—from inter­per­sonal com­mu­ni­ca­tion to the insti­tu­tions in our society.
  • Chal­lenge Bias. When biased lan­guage and stereo­types are used—in the polit­i­cal debate or elsewhere—point it out and find ways to chal­lenge it.  This sends an impor­tant mes­sage to young peo­ple about not being a bystander to injus­tice and it also gives you an open­ing to dis­cuss cur­rent events.  This can be done with­out endors­ing or crit­i­ciz­ing par­tic­u­lar candidates.
  • Think Crit­i­cally. Help stu­dents think crit­i­cally about what they are hear­ing and see­ing. This means mod­el­ing and teach­ing them to ask ques­tions that get to under­ly­ing motives and causes, as well as under­stand­ing how per­spec­tive shapes points of view. It also includes teach­ing young peo­ple not to take “facts” and infor­ma­tion at face value just because adults in posi­tions of power make an asser­tion. Inspire stu­dents to ques­tion the facts and do their own research.
  • Be An Ally.  Most impor­tantly, encour­age your stu­dents to act as an ally when they see bias and bul­ly­ing by pro­vid­ing exam­ples and help­ing young peo­ple prac­tice the var­i­ous ways to show ally­ship.  Show­ing them that there are many ways to be an ally by mod­el­ing it your­self is an impor­tant reminder that sup­port­ing the tar­get, “stand­ing up,” and not par­tic­i­pat­ing in the bias are some of the var­i­ous ways to do some­thing and not feel powerless.

Politi­cians and can­di­dates come and go—however, the impact edu­ca­tors can have on stu­dents will make a dif­fer­ence with the next gen­er­a­tion and beyond.

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August 25, 2015 1

When Hateful Speech Leads to Hate Crimes: Taking Bigotry Out of the Immigration Debate

By Jonathan Green­blatt
National Direc­tor of the Anti-Defamation League

This arti­cle orig­i­nally appeared on The Huff­in­g­ton Post Blog

When police arrived at the scene in Boston, they found a Latino man shak­ing on the ground, his face appar­ently soaked in urine, with a bro­ken nose.  His arms and chest had been beaten.  One of the two broth­ers arrested and charged with the hate crime report­edly told police, “Don­ald Trump was right—all these ille­gals need to be deported.”

The vic­tim, a home­less man, was appar­ently sleep­ing out­side of a sub­way sta­tion in Dorch­ester when the per­pe­tra­tors attacked.  His only offense was being in the wrong place at the wrong time.  The broth­ers attacked him for who he was—simply because he was Latino.

In recent weeks anti-immigrant—and by exten­sion anti-Latino—rhetoric has reached a fever pitch.  Immi­grants have been smeared as “killers” and “rapists.”  They have been accused of bring­ing drugs and crime.  A radio talk show host in Iowa has called for enslave­ment of undoc­u­mented immi­grants if they do not leave within 60 days.  There have been calls to repeal the 14th Amendment’s guar­an­tee of cit­i­zen­ship to peo­ple born in the United States, with alle­ga­tions that peo­ple come here to have so-called “anchor babies.”  And the terms “ille­gal aliens” and “ille­gals”— which many main­stream news sources wisely rejected years ago because they dehu­man­ize and stig­ma­tize people—have resurged.

The words used on the cam­paign trail, on the floors of Con­gress, in the news, and in all our liv­ing rooms have con­se­quences.  They directly impact our abil­ity to sus­tain a soci­ety that ensures dig­nity and equal­ity for all.  Big­oted rhetoric and words laced with prej­u­dice are build­ing blocks for the pyra­mid of hate.

Biased behav­iors build on one another, becom­ing ever more threat­en­ing and dan­ger­ous towards the top.  At the base is bias, which includes stereo­typ­ing and insen­si­tive remarks.  It sets the foun­da­tion for a sec­ond, more com­plex and more dam­ag­ing layer: indi­vid­ual acts of prej­u­dice, includ­ing bul­ly­ing, slurs, and dehu­man­iza­tion.  Next is dis­crim­i­na­tion, which in turn sup­ports bias-motivated vio­lence, includ­ing hate crimes like the tragic one in Boston. And in the most extreme cases if left unchecked, the top of the pyra­mid of hate is genocide.

Just like a pyra­mid, the lower lev­els sup­port the upper lev­els.  Bias, prej­u­dice and discrimination—particularly touted by those with a loud mega­phone and cheer­ing crowd—all con­tribute to an atmos­phere that enables hate crimes and other hate-fueled vio­lence.  The most recent hate crime in Boston is just one of too many.  In fact, there is a hate crime roughly every 90 min­utes in the United States today.  That is why last week ADL announced a new ini­tia­tive, #50StatesAgainstHate, to strengthen hate crimes laws around the coun­try and safe­guard com­mu­ni­ties vul­ner­a­ble to hate-fueled attacks. We are work­ing with a broad coali­tion of part­ners to get the ball rolling.

Laws alone, how­ever, can­not cure the dis­ease of hate.  To do that, we need to change the con­ver­sa­tion.  We would not sug­gest that any one person’s words caused this tragedy – the per­pe­tra­tors did that; but the rhetor­i­cal excesses by so many over the past few weeks give rise to a cli­mate in which prej­u­dice, dis­crim­i­na­tion, and hate-fueled vio­lence can take root.

Rea­son­able peo­ple can dif­fer about how we should fix our bro­ken immi­gra­tion sys­tem, but stereo­types, slurs, smears and insults have no place in the debate.

Immi­grants have been a fre­quent tar­get of hate, and unfor­tu­nately, prej­u­dice and vio­lence are not new.  Many of our ances­tors faced sim­i­lar prej­u­dice when they came to the United States. In the 1800s, the attacks were against Irish and Ger­man immi­grants. Next was a wave of anti-Chinese sen­ti­ment cul­mi­nat­ing with the Chi­nese Exclu­sion Act in 1882. Then the hatred turned on the Jews, high­lighted by the lynch­ing of Leo Frank in 1915.  Then came big­otry against Japan­ese immi­grants and peo­ple of Japan­ese dis­sent, which led to the shame­ful intern­ment of more than 110,000 peo­ple dur­ing World War II.  Today, anti-immigrant big­otry largely focuses on Lati­nos.  The tar­gets have changed, but the mes­sages of hate remain largely the same.  It is long past time for that to end.

ADL, as a 501(c)(3), does not sup­port or oppose can­di­dates for elec­tive office,but we have a sim­ple mes­sage for all pol­i­cy­mak­ers and can­di­dates:  There is no place for hate in the immi­gra­tion debate.  There is noth­ing patri­otic or admirable about hatred and hate-fueled vio­lence.  The only accept­able response to hate crimes is unequiv­o­cal, strong con­dem­na­tion.  And the same is true for the bias, prej­u­dice, and big­oted speech that have recently per­me­ated the immi­gra­tion conversation.

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